Change Has Come
24 Mar 2010 2 Comments
in Blogroll, Random Musings, Struggling Scribblings, Uncategorized
The Struggling Scribbler a.k.a LittleMissHijaabHead is married! It’s been three months now; three long, arduous months. In fact, it’s been a rollercoaster since last Easter when I virtually “met” my husband, culminating in the situation we find ourselves in now…
This is the situation that will be the subject of my rambling scribblings for quite some time I anticipate. There’s an awful lot to say; and I no longer fear going public with what I’ve found here; the darkness is coloured with putrid shades of purple and blue, bruises on the landscape of my marriage.
Before I marrried, everyone assumed that the problems would come from my own love of “wagging my tongue”, to put it the way the Asian elders would put it.
“Marriage requires a lot of hard work and a lot of compromise,” rang out whereever I turned.
It turns out, ALL of our problems so far have been a result of interferance from other members of this clan. And surprisingly for me, I have been pretty patient about it. But like I said, “Change Has Come”, not only in my life, but in my personality too.
Could it be that LittleMissHijaabHead has been trained into being the “good little Muslim wife” who never questions anything her inlaws say? I hope not. Whatever is wrong with me at the moment, I do hope that change will come. Again.
Mar 31, 2010 @ 15:07:09
Haha I’m stalking you
You should question your in-laws – I question the crazy bunch of Mirs everyday lol!
It really is an ayah / sign of Allah that He SWT can so put so much mercy between two people in such a way. If you think back over history and consider your own relationship you can start to understand that when love comes into play wars ceased and allies made between feuding tribes. Subhanallah. May Allah SWT keep our families on siraat al mustaqeem and protect us from Shaytaan who always strives to creates rifts
See you soon lovely
Rohana xxx
Mar 31, 2010 @ 17:40:17
Cheers Rohana Stalker lady!
I totally agree; you look back over Islamic history and see how it should be done – marriage, relationships and everything. InshaAllah, we should all try to do things in that way.
Umair and I really try hard to implement what we read inshaAllah – though marriage is hard; it’s made even harder by all the factors you have to consider. It’s all part of the test inshaAllah – these rules and guidelines in hadith about marriage were put into place for a reason.
As for questioning, I have no problem doing that to the immediate clan members – no one takes it badly – it’s Islamic to question in a healthy, respectful way.
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